Monday, October 24, 2011

He's perfect(ish) to me

Now that my baby is a one-year old big boy, I suppose I should stop calling him "my baby." But, do they ever really stop being our babies? He still seems so tiny to call him a child and I am really not feeling "toddler" just yet. So, I guess he'll just have to stay a baby for a bit longer.

It's been really interesting to see how differently people treat Mr. Monk once he turned a year. Or, rather, I should say, how people treat me and my parenting. Invariably, the second question out of a person's mouth after age is, "Has he started walking yet?" I have heard that question no less than 30 times in the past week. Whoa, people, simmer down. I'm not sure why all of the sudden people expect him to be walking just because he's a week older than he was last week when no one asked if he was walking. This question is usually posed as he's crawling around the playground. If he were walking, you would see him walking, no? Every time, people then tell me about their son/daughter who didn't walk until he or she was 15-20 months. I don't really care about when he hits these milestones, as I know it doesn't really matter, but I'm not sure why anyone else does.

Speaking of other people caring and oversharing, some woman came up to me in the playground today as my mini was enjoying his few minutes of bliss in the spinning bucket seat. I was standing over him, pushing him round and round when an older lady ambled over and remarked, "Isn't he a little young for that kind of activity?" Aren't you a little old for this kind of activity is what I wanted to respond. Instead I just said that he really seems to love it. And, I'm right here watching my child, thank you very much, ma'am.

Later in the day, on one of our daily visits to Whole Foods (I wish I were kidding), Mr. Monk was again enjoying himself. This time, his revelry involved a bagel and a relatively loud rendition of his favorite song, "dadadada daddyyyyyy." As we were walking down the baby products aisle, an older woman got all up in his stroller and said, "Inside voice, please!" I had already been trying to tell him to be quiet in the store, but I wasn't exactly appreciative of this random busybody's reenforcement. He's 1, lady, give him a break! And, you have NO IDEA WHAT SCREAMING SOUNDS LIKE IF YOU THOUGHT THIS WAS BAD!

My beautiful, loud, manic crawling, bucket seat spinning enthusiast had himself a birthday party full of hootin' and hollerin' and we have the pictures to prove it!


  1. You have a gorgeous family.

    And I called my first daughter "the baby" until the second one was born. The first one was three years and four months old at that time. :) I would literally say to my husband, "Can you give the baby dinner?" or "The baby didn't nap today." SHE WAS THREE AND A HALF OMG. lol.


  2. Ha, that's so true about him walking. Like he's just going to say, "I'm one now so it's time to start walking." It must be annoying but I'm sure they don't mean anything by it and are just trying to make conversation.

  3. Happy 1st Birthday, Mr Monk!! He's just adorable.

    My son is nearly 2 and I STILL call him baby :)

    As for busybodies and unsolicited remarks/ advice, just ignore them. You know your child best. These people should just mind their own beeswax!

    (Oh and the walking thing? Mine only did at 14.5 months and I had 3 whole months of having to deal with people asking WHEN IS HE GOING TO WALK? I would answer, in his own time.)

  4. Thanks for the support, ladies! I'm going to go ahead and keep on calling him my baby-for as long as he'll let me.

    Sean Marie--I agree, I think that everyone is just making conversation and asking about walking/talking/reading/etc. is just something to say when standing around the playground and trying to keep yourself and your child entertained. It was just funny to me how many times people asked me that in the past week, when I've never once been asked before he turned one.

  5. How annoying of those nosey ladies, especially the one at Whole Foods. Rude! I hope you gave her a nasty look, lol. My son will be 3 soon and I still call him "my baby", even though he's looking more and more like a little boy every day. Looks like Mr. Monk had a perfect birthday! Cute owl theme!

  6. I'm nearly 28 and my dad still calls me his baby...I also vote on calling our babies "baby" long out of babyhood. (Sounds confusing, makes sense.)

    Happy 1!!!! Wow!

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    That owl balloon is so freakin' cute, haha! I love owls :)

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  8. Oh I can't wait for people's random parenting comments!