Years ago I had this epiphany in the women's bathroom of the law firm where I was working. I do my best thinking in bathrooms, don't you? I always used to talk to myself in the bathroom as a kid. Probably because it was the only place I could be alone in a tiny house with six people. Getting back to the major moment, it was February 2006 and I was miserable. I hated my job, my living situation, my completely dysfunctional relationship with my boyfriend and, essentially, my life.
Yet I still had the other issues in my life-the job, the apartment- that I knew were within my control. So, the epiphany that struck me as I stared at the beige stall trying not to pee too loudly was that I only have one life. I was the only one who could make it not suck. Sheer genius, I know. But, somewhere along in the previous couple of years, I had lost sight of this obvious point. I really had spent far too much time waiting for the "what ifs" or "whens" rather than just enjoy my life as it was or change it as needed. If I always believed that things were going to be better at another point, there was no need to really focus on the present. It was like someone smacked me in the head with a giant "THE FUTURE IS NOW" stamp.
Fast forward six months and I was living in a new place, with a brand new job, in a new field. The day after I started my new job I (re)met my future husband (technically we'd met once before but whatever). It's amazing how much you can change once you decide that things need to change.
I'm starting to feel that same energy shift now. While I'm not sobbing all day and talking to myself in bathrooms (sadly, this is no longer a solo activity), I don't feel as happy as I imagined I would while not working and playing with my kid all day. It's hard. Harder than I thought it would be. I miss being me and don't like always being mommy (mom-me). A change is coming. Not a radical one, mind you. Perhaps a 25-40% change in the status quo. Once I figure out what that means, I'm going to get right on it.